Reblogging:10 Things to Remind Yourself on a Daily Basis

(I’m simply reblogging this because I don’t want to tamper with perfection! Loved the post, thanks Madison).
Bad days can be extremely overpowering sometimes. When we’re having a bad day, everything feels wrong and the day seems to get even worse as we sink further into frustration and despair. By the end of the day, all we want to do is pull the covers up over our heads and block it all out.
When I clawed my way out of a depressive phase last year, it was a daily challenge to keep myself from falling back into that phase again. I had to go through a process of re-building my self-esteem and re-evaluating my life. But there were days when I was not very successful with these things and the negative thoughts that stayed with me for so long would interfere again.
It sort of felt like climbing up and over a steep hill and every time I let a negative or discouraging thought sink in, my foot would slip and I would roll all the way back down to the bottom of the hill and have to start all over again.
On the bad days, I would feel like it would never end and that I would always be unhappy.
To achieve mental balance, I have to make a habit of reminding myself of a few important things that I think we all tend to forget when there is a black cloud looming over our heads.
1. Do not lose sight of what truly matters. Does that clogged sink signify the end of the world? Are you going to remember or even care that the stranger you smiled at in the coffee shop didn’t smile back? When we’re having a bad day, we seem to zoom in on petty things and complain about them. Next time you’re pulling your hair out over something, ask yourself if it really matters.
2. It is okay to be alone or pull back from the world. Sometimes we just need to step back and re-evaluate a situation, a relationship, or just life in general. When I went through my healing period, I spent a lot of time alone as I tried to become my own best friend again. If you need to go into hiding for awhile and work on stitching yourself back up, take the time to do that. It is so important to pull back and spend quality time with yourself every now and then.
3. You are not always in control. You cannot predict when certain things will or should happen, or how everything will turn out. Sometimes you just have to stop pushing and let go.
4. What other people think is irrelevant. I was a miserable slave to the opinions of others. It got to a point where I was trying so hard to please everyone but myself. Don’t let your immediate reaction to criticism be to change whatever it is you’re being criticized for. Do whatever feels right to you, regardless of what other people have to say about it.
5. Don’t give up. If you’re fighting for something that means a lot to you, do not stop fighting whenever you happen to fall short. Remember why you are fighting for it.
6. You don’t have to know all the answers. No one ever has life all figured out. We are always learning and growing. Life itself is a mystery and it’s okay to feel clueless sometimes.
7. You are enough. All of us have had times in our lives where we have thought, “I’m not smart enough or pretty enough or strong enough or exciting enough to do _____.” Give yourself a chance instead of forming limiting beliefs.
8. Stay present. Try not to dwell on the past or worry about the future. Take everything one day at a time.
9. Your feelings will not kill you. I know that heartbreak, grief, depression, or resentment might make you feel like you’re dead and breathing, but you have the strength to get through whatever life throws at you. Hold on and see yourself through it.
10. You are human. This is probably the biggest reminder of them all. You will make mistakes. You will hurt other people and other people will hurt you. You won’t always feel happy and positive. Next time you feel the urge to beat yourself up over any of these things, remind yourself that you are an imperfect human being instead.
Published February 7, 2012 at 10:30 AM
About Madison Sonnier
Madison Sonnier is a writer who has written for several online publications and is seeking connection and fulfillment. She loves to express herself and ultimately hopes to make people feel inspired and less alone through her writing. You can follow her blog atjourneyofasoulsearcher.blogspot.com or follow her on Twitter @MyLyricQuotes.

Yoga for the Holidays – an extended yoga class Saturday 24 November 2012

A Holistic Approach to Staying Healthy this Holiday Season and Throughout the Year with Nicci Annette, Certified Yoga Teacher

Saturday 24th November 2012 | 9-10.30am | Stellenbosch
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The holidays are a wonderful time to reconnect with family and enjoy the goodwill and peace of the season. Unfortunately, in order to create this kind of magic, we often find that we are running around in ever-decreasing circles trying to get ready for all the celebrations and social occasions. The lack of free time to rest and rejuvenate our physical selves, in combination with the inevitable over-indulgences of the season, can spell trouble for even the most seasoned of yoga practitioners. In the hustle and bustle of the holidays, it can be easy to let go of the time you’ve been spending nourishing your body and mind through regular yoga practice in lieu of having extra time to prepare. On the other hand, continuing yoga practice during even the most hectic times in our lives is an excellent way to keep healthy and ready to enjoy the best of the season.

Come and join me for an extended yoga class as a reminder of what to keep doing while you are away from the studio, and to keep you coming back to your mat no matter where you are over the holidays. I will give you a class plan to take away with you so that you can stay motivated to keep your practice, your body and mind healthy while we are apart.

The studio at Yoga With Nicci is on the banks of the Eerste River in Die Laan, opposite the beautiful mountain walks and dam of Coetzenberg, and just a few minutes’ walk from the town centre, the Botanical Gardens and a whole lot more. See http://www.yogawithnicci.co.za for full directions.

All levels welcome. Only 2 spaces left!

To book: Nicci 078 563 8152 | nicci@yogawithnicci.co.za

Adventure Boot Camp and a 2 1/2 Hour Heated Yoga Session: Lessons Learned

I recently did two things that I’ve never done before: a 4 week Adventure Boot Camp and a 2 ½ hour heated yoga session. Both taught me all sorts of things about myself, or reminded me of things that I’d forgotten.

It’s easy as a teacher to tell your students to not worry about what they look like or not to compare themselves to anyone else in the class. It’s not as easy to do it yourself when you are surrounded by a room full of the bendiest, stretchiest and toned bods you have ever seen in your entire life!

I had to keep reminding myself to go within – to tune everything else out and to just focus on what was going on on my own mat.

I had to listen to my body like never before, because it was a pretty advanced session with a number of asana that were out of my range of capability, and whilst I was sorely tempted to try some out, I knew that the risk of injury was there.

I remembered how scary it can be to go upside down for the first time! I have been doing headstands and shoulder stands for as long as I can remember, and so it’s easy to become complacent about how frightening it can be to someone who’s never done it before. We were doing handstands up against the wall, which I’m happy doing, but we were doing double-legged kick-ups (they had a fancy word for it which escapes me now) with our ankles bound. It takes a lot of strength and confidence, and whilst I do think that I may have had the physical ability, I totally lost my bottle after a few botched attempts that almost saw me face-planting. Feeling that wobble and the fear that came swiftly afterward was the best lesson I’ve had in a long time. I never push my students to do anything that they are nervous of doing – just not my style, and just not good teaching, and definitely not ‘good’ yoga – but it was a good reminder that the fear that some people do feel is very real and I am grateful that this will teach me to be even more empathetic than I try to be usually.

See above – I wrote ‘botched’ attempts. As I wrote it, I realised that I’m doing it again – self-criticism, which is one of the things I encourage my students to leave outside the door. So, at the time, I had to work with myself to not feel that I was failing, but just to observe that that’s how it was on that particular day. Another day it may be different, or not – and that’s fine. And writing it now, once again catching myself and saying ‘no, it wasn’t botched, it just was beyond your range of capabilities at that particular time. And that’s fine’.

Other things that were constantly there: letting go of competitiveness and comparison; being grateful for being injury-free; feeling revitalised by the excitement of doing something new!

The second new thing for me was attending Adventure Bootcamp, 3 mornings a week for 4 weeks. I wanted to boost my cardio fitness and had heard so many good things about ABC that I wanted to try it out. I typically get my cardio workout by walking in the mountains every second day or so, but recently a lot of my walking buddies have been tied up and I’m loathe to go into the mountains on my own (sad but true). So, with great trepidation, I arrived on Day 1, only to find out that I was the only new girl. Horror! Self-conscious, awkward, feeling extremely conspicuous, I had to work with all sorts of emotions that arose. Partnering up with a buddy brought up a reminder of being at school and being anxious that I would be the one that wouldn’t get picked! So I had to keep reminding myself that I am an almost-40 year old mum of two, not a gawky teenager, and that I was fine, with buddy or without.

The competitiveness thing really reared its ugly head at Bootcamp! I am inherently competitive (I used to be the one who would race the person on the next rowing machine in the gym when they had no idea that we were in competition. I used to even race cars up a steep hill if I was walking…I had it bad). Yoga has been a real tonic for me in this regard – letting go of all that, and coming to a place where you realise that it’s not about beating someone else or being ‘better’ than them, or winning. It’s about listening to yourself, knowing your own capabilities and limitations, and respecting and accepting that. And being motivated from within rather than by measuring yourself against someone else. Big lesson for me.

I had forgotten how quiet I tend to go when I’m in a new group. I am fortunate to have a group of extremely special friends who I feel very comfortable with, meaning that I don’t often catch myself second-guessing myself and what I’m saying or how I’m acting, knowing that I am accepted as I am, warts and all, but here I was being hyper-sensitive to how everyone looked at me, wondering whether I was fitting in okay, wondering if I was fit enough, friendly enough, over-friendly etc. So it was a big thing for me to keep that inner dialogue going, telling myself just to breeeeaaaathe and to be myself, and that that is always good enough. More than good enough – that’s number one prize – being true to yourself and finding the ‘authentic you’, as the lovely Misha at Yoga Life described it.

I also realised again how easy it is for us (myself included) to make up our minds about someone very swiftly, based on a first impression, and that very often what you think you see is rarely the full picture or story. Yes, those first few seconds are important and our intuition is a powerful thing, but there is often so much else that we aren’t aware of that may colour how a person is coming across. I was constantly reminded of my aunt’s beautiful quote: ‘Be kind, because everyone is going through something’ (I think it was actually Plato that originally said ‘Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle’). That woman who isn’t overly chatty? She’s not rude, it turns out her sister has just been diagnosed with breast cancer, has a 2 year old daughter, and the prognosis doesn’t look good. The one who is hugely competitive and wants to win every single exercise and race? Turns out she’s deaf, huge fun, and feels a huge amount of pride and accomplishment at being ‘the best’ in a world where she’s always had a challenge that most of us wouldn’t even begin to understand.  And so on.

And even though I was initially a bit daunted by how close-knit the group seemed, by week 2 I was instead looking forward to this lovely sense of community – no, more than that – sisterhood – that exists within the group. Women rock – we are all so unique and that’s the beauty of something like this: there is space for everyone to be themselves without feeling the need to conform.

We are all human. We are all works in progress. We are all learning things all the time, and we are all doing our best, given what we know and what is going on in our lives. It’s been a good lesson to be reminded of all these things. Oh, and I signed up for my second boot camp, and now I’m not the new girl anymore!

10 Easy Ways to Love Your Home Yoga Practice

From talking to my students at my yoga studio in Stellenbosch, I realise that many yogis are so daunted by the idea of cultivating a home practice that they simply don’t do it at all, rather waiting for their one or twice a week class at the studio, or in their minds they build it up to be an insurmountable task and feel so pressurised to get it ‘right’ at home that it becomes a slog rather than a pleasure, if and when they do actually get to it. It took me a long time before I really felt comfortable and at home in my home practice, and now I can’t imagine my life without it. Whether it’s a couple of rounds of Surya Namaskar in the morning before my kids wake up, a few cat/cow stretches before I go to sleep or a full hour of mindful movement, it’s what keeps me sane and centred.

So, it was a delight for me to find this lovely article by Cheryl Warrick. She puts it so clearly and concisely, and I just love her summary of how to fall in love with, and build upon, your home practice. Read on for inspiration and some simple tips…

You have a home yoga practice but, sometimes you worry that you are just not “doing it right.” Sound familiar?

I have great news for you.

There is no “right way” to practice yoga at home.

Each time you step on to your mat, you are opening a fresh inquiry into understanding and relating to your body, mind and spirit. Each day your body is different, so each practice is unique.

Here are ten ideas to help you practice at home with a sense of curiosity, playfulness and ease:

 

1. Set your intention.

Take the first few moments on your mat to settle into your body. Close your eyes. Draw your awareness inward and set an intention. An intention can be any simple and heart felt truth or desire you wish to manifest.

This practice helps you align with your higher self.

 

2. Ask yourself what you need from your yoga practice today.

Honour what your body and mind are asking for.

 

3. Keep it brief.

Sometimes we think we “should” practice for a full hour or more. Give yourself permission to practice just a few poses that you are comfortable with. Notice how it feels to do less instead of more.

 

4. Take your time.

Practice each pose slowly and mindfully. Become aware of your transitions between each pose. What do you notice between each pose?

 

5. Be gentle.

Notice if you have a tendency to be critical of yourself as you practice. Meet yourself where you are today and practice in the body you have right now. Can you extend compassion and acceptance toward yourself?

 

6. Practice gratitude.

Take a few moments in your practice to find something or someone to be grateful for.

Practicing gratitude helps boost your mood and helps anchor you in the present moment.

 

7. Pay attention.

Meet yourself with acceptance and non-judgement.

What do you notice about your body and your mind before you practice?

What shifted after yoga?

 

8. Journal.

Keep a small journal and pen next to your yoga mat.

After you practice make note of any insights from your practice.

 

9. Follow your breath.

The breath is a bridge that connects the body and mind.

Begin to notice how your breath feels as you move.

Gently anchoring your attention on the breath creates deeper awareness of the present moment.

Send the breath to any part of the body that feels stagnant or stuck.

 

10. Don’t forget Savasana (corpse pose).

Coming into a quiet resting posture at the end of your practice is one of the most important and most difficult poses.

The gift of non-doing allows your body to soak in all that you have done in your practice.

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Keep your yoga practice going!

I’d love to know more about your home practice. What keeps you coming back to your mat? What do you struggle with?

Published November 1, 2012 at 9:20 AM

About Cheryl Warrick

Cheryl Warrick, M.Ed, RYT is a 200 hr. level certified yoga teacher, reiki practitioner, wellness coach and artist. She is the Director of Yoga Services for the Domar Center for Mind Body Health in Waltham, MA. Her passion is to inspire her students to discover and welcome a sense of curiosity, balance and ease in their yoga practice. To learn more about her go to www.cherylwarrickyoga.com .